Back in September, the 14th to be exact,
I started the process of locking my hair into dreads. It was something I had
always wanted to do, and it was a great way to dive into another part of the
culture here in South Africa, so I figured meh, why not!?
As time has gone on and my dreads have
begin to mature I've begin to realize just how much my dreads and my YAGM year
have in common. How on Earth does my hair and this time living abroad have
anything in common you might ask?
#1 - It Takes
Patience
The reason I started my dreads in the
first place was as a reminder of patience. Much like a YAGM's experience, the
gratitude aspect of the process doesn't exactly happen overnight. Dreads take
time to form, mature, and to finally grow into a full lock. My own YAGM
experience is just now beginning to take form, to "mature", and in
the words of my friend Heidi, leave the honeymoon phase of this year of
service.
#2 - They Need
Nurturing
Contrary to popular belief dreads
actually take a little bit of work to get started (especially with straight
hair texture). If you want good looking, clean dreads you can't just ignore
them. Much like the beginning of a YAGM year (or quite possibly the whole
thing) they need nurturing, nourishment, and sometimes some particularly
meticulous care.
#3 - They Can Be
Messy
There is no way around the fact that if
you have dreads they are, to some extent, going to be a bit dirty at times.
This is my favorite part of the YAGM experience so far though. If it was always
sunshine, roses and happy times I wouldn't be experiencing the personal growth
and profound changes I am. The happy times have significantly outweighed the
challenging times, but like a great set of dreads the reward is well worth
persevering through the bumping times.
#4 - You Can't Do
It Alone
If one was particularly motivated and had
A LOT of time to dedicate to starting their own dreads I suppose they could
pull it off by themselves. The reality of dreads and a YAGM year though is
about the people around you. Having friends help you start and maintain your
dreads is way more fun than doing it alone. Surrounding myself with various
communities and asking them to help me during my time here has been one of the
greatest gifts I've ever received. Not to mention Mosagwe, Abby and Elle help
me maintain my dreads on a regular basis.
#5 - They Become
Part of Who You Are
Most people who choose to start dreads
have good reason to do so, whether it is religious, spiritual, etc. As you
watch them mature and grow into true locks they become part of you and your
identity. When I signed up to be a YAGM I thought I was merely signing up to
volunteer a year of my life. Little did I know I was signing up for a lifelong
commitment of continual change and growth of my own identity. Not that I’m by
any means made about that.
Peace
*written December 2nd