Passover Remembered…..
by Alla Bozarth-Campbell
I find myself repeatedly going back to
this poem that was read for us at orientation. Its a great poem, and very
appropriate to what the YAGM year truly is. And the further into my experience
I become, the more I'm starting to see just how appropriate it really is and
understand and read it in a completely new way.
Pack nothing.
Bring only your determination to
serve
and your willingness to be free.
When first hearing this stanza I think I
took it in more of a literal context then I truly realized. Pack nothing: from
the instant I left for Chicago I found myself regretting how much stuff I had
brought. I usually am on the lighter end when it comes to packing, but for some
reason there were things that I thought I couldn't live without for a year. I
was greatly mistaken. By the time I did land in South Africa I took it upon
myself to completely unpack and reevaluate everything I had decided to bring. Needless
to say I cut down what I truly needed vs. what I had wanted by over half. But
still I don't think this line simply applies to the material things we carry
with us when we go. We must also come with not an empty mind, but an open
heart. For if you came with an empty mind to simply be filled then you wouldn't
truly be walking in accompaniment with your host communities. Your heart though
must be open, and most of all vulnerable. Allowing yourself to be truly
vulnerable is probably one of the most terrifying feelings in the world. More
then any adrenaline junkies craziest nightmare. Yet it's in that vulnerable
space that we find and learn who and what we truly are. Maybe that is what is
the most terrifying about it?
Bring only your determination to serve
and your willingness to be free: well isn't that why i've given a year of my
life as a volunteer?? Wrong. I've found since being in country that this line
has changed in meaning greatly for me. We know that YAGM isn't about
"fixing" or "doing" when it comes to the year of service,
but our American enculturation is so deeply engrained for most of us that we
still have this crazy idea that we are going somewhere in the world to
"do" something. Then you get there, and you finally realize that "being"
really is why you are here and your host community hasn't planned for you to be
"doing" anything. It's at this point that I found myself reaching for
familiar comforts. Technology, electronics, and anything else that could
establish some sense of security in my desire to be accomplishing something or
at least "doing" something productive in my minds eye. As the story
goes, this just made me even more miserable. I had thrown up a barrier. I had
divided myself from my host community by reaching for these comforts. What in
the hell had I gotten myself into? This practice went on for a couple days with
the feelings of "what the hell" coming and going as I moved through
out my day. Then finally it clicked for me. I realized the barriers I was
placing between my community and myself by taking part in what I found to
simply be comfortable norms. That day I put up a new barrier. A barrier between
myself and my own comforts. I forced myself to starting living alongside my
community and its members. It was then, in that space, that I found new meaning
in the last line of this stanza. I had found a new willingness to be removed
from the comforts of my technology and electronics and to be truly free in and
among my people. It made all the difference. Almost instantly I found the dark
areas turning into light and began to find a new comfort in vulnerability.
Don't wait for the bread to rise.
Take nourishment for the journey,
be eat standing.
Be ready to move at a moment's
notice.
In many ways I think I have spent the
entirety of my life doing just the opposite of this. I have spent the last five
years of my life merely going through the motions to get by, waiting for the
bread to rise. I went to college and got my degree. Never mind the fact that I
wasn't entirely sure I wanted to go to college in the first place, let alone
what I really wanted to study. I got a job, and not only a job but one if the
field I had studied in college. It was even shaping up to turn into a rather
successful career path if I so chose to make it one. Needless to say I chose a
different path. One of my favorite quotes of all time comes from the Martin
Sheen film "The Way". It goes something a little bit like this,
"You don't choose a life, you live one." Life is not about all the
planning we have been conditioned to understand it as. You get your diploma,
you go to college, you get your degree, you get a job, you start a career, you
start a family, you retire, and you die. Is that really what life and living
are? Instead, follow what your heart is telling you, do something you love with
your one wild and precious life. For me, when all the planning and
"choosing" were put aside and I started living through and listening
to my heart is when life really begin to happen. With that you must be ready to
move at a moments notice and be ok with it, because you can never truly know
where it is your heart and your passion will take you in this world.
Do not hesitate to leave your old
ways behind-
fear, silence, submission.
Only surrender to the need of the
time-
love justice and walk humbly with
your God.
My old ways were exactly that, fear,
silence, and submission. Every person has hopes, dreams, and aspirations. The
difference comes when people decide to chase them or not. "Only surrender
to the need of the time", the need of this time for me was to surrender
those very traits and its been the greatest thing I've ever done for myself.
For the first time in my life I am chasing my hopes and my dreams. Ive laid
fear of failure aside and allowed myself to made vulnerable. Ive stopped
submitting to the doubts in my mind and started living out the what if's rather
then regretting them.
Do not take time to explain to the
neighbors.
Tell only a few trusted friends
and family members.
Then begin quickly, before you
have time
to sink back into old slavery.
When reading this stanza I can't help but
feel like I have spent my entire life, "explaining to the neighbors".
Until the decision to do YAGM I had always spent my entire life seeking
everyones approval. As much as I tried to convey that I really didn't care. I
placed expectations on myself that others for the most part hadn't, but I used
them as a crutch and an excuse not to fully live my life. When it comes down to
it it's only a few very close friends and my family that I need worry myself
with. And even at that, I still have to live my life and go where i'm feeling
called regardless of anyone else's thoughts or perceptions of what's best for
me. Beginning quickly is the key. When you take too much time to think and
ponder things you already know are right in your heart and mind, you convince
yourself that what you want and your plan is whats best for you. Comfort and
security now, can and likely will become its own prison later.
Set out in the dark.
I will send fire to warm and
encourage you.
I will be with you in the fire,
and i will be with you in the cloud.
I can't help but feel like the darkness
that is spoke of in this stanza is your expectations. As humans we all have
them. Alongside our prejudices and single stories of different and foreign
places to us. When you set out truly in the dark to these things and ideas is
when you start seeing things for what they really are. Rather then through the
lens you've placed in front of your vision.
You will learn to eat new food
and find refuge in new places.
I will give you dreams in the
desert
to guide you safely to the place
you have not yet seen.
The stories you tell one another
around the fires in the dark
will make you strong and wise.
As human beings we of coarse need
physical nourishment to survive, but its not merely our bodies that must learn
to eat new foods. Our souls too must me nourished and fed in order for us to
survive. In new foreign places, it can be hard. You become so consumed with
merely surviving you forget to take time to nurture the part of you that in the
end makes you who you are. Old practices and routines mostly likely are no
longer an option. Moving to South Africa I lost my greatest source of
nourishment and refugee all in one fellow swoop. My Montana mountains and
wilderness is was no longer there. Things like hikes, bike rides, and hikes
instantly were snatched away from me. The freedom to aimlessly wander the
streets at night amongst your own thoughts, gone. You gain a whole new
appreciation for what you once had. But eventually, you find new food and new
refuge in places that you maybe never expected to. Amongst some of the darkest,
loneliest days you can usually find a dream. Something that pulls at your heart
and shows you a glimpse of light. The further you follow that light the more
you begin to see and understand things that you may have never thought of or
felt. Yet you had to be here, in this place and this space, to see and feel it.
Things you have spent your entire life trying to understand, all of a sudden
become clear as day.
This entire journey is about stories. Its
about your story, their story, and ultimately our story. It's in those stories
that we find ourselves. And it's through those stories that we help others to
see their own stories they may have never written otherwise. Life is a book of
many chapters. With many characters, settings, and beautiful imagery. The plot
is a never ending story line into eternity that has now climax and no fall.
Just a continuation from one chapter into the next.
Outsiders will attack you, and
some follow you
and at times you will get weary
and turn on each other
from fear, fatigue and blind
forgetfulness.
There were a lot of people before I left
for my YAGM year that questioned why I was doing this. I had a career path well
lined up for a very safe, secure and comfortable future. It wasn't that path
for me though. I still every once and awhile meet people here who don't
understand what it is I'm doing here or why I'm even here at all. The fact that
someone wants to learn about the people here is a hard pill to swollen for some
South Africans. I also can't begin to express the amount of support I have
received. From home, from friends, from my new family here in country. They
have all been an amazing stronghold since day one. A stronghold I will continue
to need and lean to during my times of fear, fatigue, and blind forgetfulness
that are sure to come.
You have been preparing for this
for hundreds of years.
This one for me was pretty simple. My
entire life, everything I have done. The good, the bad, the things I'm proud of
and those I'm not so proud of, have all been leading me to here. I would not be
the person I am today or have made it to this point in my life with out the
knowledge and wisdom I have gained from all those experiences. I have no
regrets, just a lot of experiences.
I am sending you into the
wilderness to make a new way
and to learn my ways more deeply.
I have spent my entire life trying
desperately to follow MY way. This YAGM year was the first step in my truly
living life to live it rather then plan it. And for the first time I'm living
my life while listening. There are no more plans and really no more directions,
just the here and the now. What comes next will present itself when it's time.
For now I'm learning the ways of life, living, and being among creation on a
deeper level.
Some of you will be so changed by
weathers and wanderings
that even your closest friends
will have to learn your features
as though for the first time.
Within hours of landing in country I felt
myself begin to change. For me personally, I don't know how I could go through
this experience and not change. I have begin to see the world and its people in
an entirely knew light already and its only been six weeks. The amount of
growth and personal change I will continue to go through on this journey is
very likely to change my identity. I will come home a different person then you
all said goodbye to in August. There may be parts of the new me that some
people don't understand. My closest family is going to have to meet me for the
first time in many ways. At the same time I know my family and close friends
will be right there beside me when I return. And my understanding of them and
my own appreciation for the love they give to me, will be grown and embraced
more then ever before.
Some of you will not change at
all.
This statement is not the case for me.
Yet it is a good reminder to myself that some of my fellow YAGM all around the
world may not change. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Each one
of us will have unique stories and experiences to share when we return home.
It's impossible to compare or judge one experience with another.
Some will be abandoned by your
dearest loves
and misunderstood by those who
have know you since birth
who feel abandoned by you.
This fact has been something I have had
to come to accept since arriving here in South Africa. As I stated before, I
have already grown and changed on a very profound level. The amount of personal
growth and change that will continue through out this year will redefine who I
am. There are people back home who will be continue with there day to day
routines the entire time I am here. The fact of the matter is that they may not
like or understand the person I have become through this experience. I can only
hope that I find ways to help them see and understand the changes in me just as
I have come to identify and understand them for myself.
Some will find new friendships in
unlikely faces,
and old true friends as faithful
and true
as the pillar of God's flame.
I can't echo this statement enough. Sixty
five young people from all across the United States came together for one weeks
time this August. The friendships and bonds formed in that time are those of
friends who have known each other for a lifetime. They have become the friends
that you can go for months, even years, without seeing and when reunited it's
as if you saw them yesterday. For this blessing I am grateful. Some of us have
grown closer then others, and will continue our friendships more intentionally
then others. But at the end of the day we are all YAGM 2013-2014 and are all
brothers and sisters in christ forever.
Sing songs as you go,
and hold close together.
You may at times grow confused
and lose your way.
You have to sing songs together along
this journey. I can't speak for other country groups, but when I read this I
can't help but think of my own country group. In our short time together during
our orientations the ten of us became very much a family. I would be a bold
face liar if I told you that this experience hasn't had its challenges. But in
every challenge we have faced, we have faced them together. Though we are
spread out all across the country we have become an amazing support system for
each other when we need it.
Continue to call each other by the
names i've given you
to help remember who you are.
Touch each other,
and keep telling the stories.
I have to remind myself of this everyday.
Whether the day brought amazing growth with my community or it felt like maybe
a less then productive day, I have to remind myself and each other that we are
children of God. And that I am so incredibly loved and blessed with a grace I
will never fully understand. This experience, community, and life are stories.
Stories that are meant to be shared with each other. Stories that help us to
grow not only personally but together as a world community. It's through these
stories that life happens. It's through these stories that we begin to
understand each other in knew and previously misunderstood ways. It's through
our true stories that a world community becomes a reality.
Makes maps as you go,
remembering the way back from
before you were born.
So you will be only the first of
many waves
of deliverance on the desert seas.
It is in the first of many
beginnings-
your Paschaltide.
You can't appreciate where you are if you
don't remember where you came from. When you makes maps for yourself you also
make maps for others. Maps too are stories that others can hear and follow. It's
a saying we all know well, " Be the change you want to see in the
world." Draw a map for someone else to follow and the world just might
start to look like a different place. You can be the first of many blessings.
Remain true to the mystery.
Pass on the whole story.
Do not go back.
I am with you now and I am waiting
for you.
We never truly will understand the
mystery that is this life. Yet we can find ways to see and witness that beauty
that is amongst it everyday. When we pass of the whole story and not just a
single story we change the narrative. We challenge the preconceived prejudices
this world tells us otherwise. The best part about it is that once you have the
whole story you don't have to return to the lies you once maybe believed.
Rather then jumping to judgement, you learn to turn to wonder and embrace those
things you don't fully understand.
Peace
*written October 13